Kids... gotta love em, but co-parenting can be a pain in the...

Whether you are a mommy or a daddy, co parenting with a difficult ex can be extremely frustrating!!! 

Sometimes I wonder what the heck I was thinking when I dated him... was I drunk the whole entire time?? Then I look at my kid and realize that everything happens for a reason ♡ 

My child's father and new wife love to make our lives difficult,  and act like I'm this terrible person because I dont cater to their every whim. God forbid they have to be responsible -_- 

I know lots of people can relate! Whether you are a dad or a mom, it's all the same. 

In my case I am raising 3 children, one being my ex husband's, biologically, but my fiance and I raise all 3 of them as our own. My kids are great!! They are so smart and amazing and make me so proud constantly, especially when it comes to school. My fiance and I have drilled it into their little heads from the beginning that everything they do in school will effect their future, college, all that. If they fall behind when they are young it only gets harder and harder as they get older. 

All 3 of my kids try their hardest to get honor roll every quarter. My child who spends time in 2 VERY different homes tries VERY hard, but it's hard to live by different sets of rules, and getting back into the swing of things at home when you have been doing things differently than here (or just playing video games most of your time for a couple days in a row). Unfortunately when you cant get along with your child's other parent it's impossible to have the same rules in both homes. 

Now I'm not saying he doesn't get honor roll, he usually does (luckily he is home on school days). There have been a couple times he didnt because of one too many C's, which is a real bummer because he was so close!! I am only saying it's harder. I try my hardest to help him, but as kids get older there really isnt much we, as parents can do besides be here if they have a question and help them study when needed. 

I just wish co parenting didnt have to be so difficult. I dont understand why me wanting my child home, where I am able to help with studying and checking work to make sure there aren't alot of mistakes, or it's done right in general, is such a big deal. I am not one of those parents who keeps my child from the other parent, even if I feel that it would be better in the long run. I couldn't do that to my child. Of course if he doesn't want to go I would never make him!! 

I have my own opinion of people, but my kids need to be able to have their own opinion as well (as much as I wish I could make him understand why I feel the way I do, it's not my place to make him feel the way I do.) Kids see alot more than most of us realize.  As hard as it may be at times to keep our opinions to ourselves about their other parent, we have to because if we dont it will only cause them to feel negatively towards us, and that's not at all what we want. We just want what is best for our kids. At least any parent who is anything like we are.. 

All we can do is love them, make sure they know we are ALWAYS here for them nmw, and hope we are raising them to be good people... because once they are grown and on their own all we can do from there is hope for the best and when possible guide them in the right direction :)

"Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them" -Lady Bird Johnson